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From our survey

When the meds have not helped: next steps for St. Louis caregivers

The second prescription ran out last week. Your brother says it "maybe helped a little," which you both know means no. He is back to sleeping through the weekend and missing calls. You have a sinking sense that the next step is simply a third pill, and you are not sure that is the only road.

It is not. This guide lays out the next steps for caregivers in the St. Louis region when standard depression medication has not done enough, with local details for both sides of the river. It leans on our survey of 443 Midwest adults, whose top-line figures are now final.

First, a reality check: this is common

Nearly three in four respondents, 72 percent, had faced stubborn depression, anxiety, or PTSD, the kind the usual prescriptions could not budge, either personally or through someone close. Combining those who said it was someone close with those who said both, more than a third had watched someone they care about go through it.

That was a question about experience rather than diagnosis, but the message holds. Plenty of St. Louis families are exactly where yours is. There is a well-worn path forward, even if nobody has shown it to you yet.

Step one: gather the history before the next appointment

Whoever sees your loved one next will want to know what has been tried. Pull it together in one place:

  • The name of each antidepressant or mood medication.
  • The dose, if you can find it. Pharmacy printouts and patient portals often list it.
  • How long each was taken, and why it was stopped.
  • Any side effects, and any stretches that felt better or worse.

Step two: go back to the doctor, with a specific ask

Most people would begin here anyway. Fifty-six percent of our respondents would begin with their primary care doctor if they wanted a newer depression treatment. Book a visit dedicated to this and ask two things: whether the history suggests treatment-resistant depression, and whether a referral to psychiatry or a specialty clinic makes sense.

The weight of that conversation is hard to overstate. When asked who could best nudge them toward a newer treatment, respondents chose their own doctor far more than anyone else, at 74 percent.

If your loved one does not have a primary doctor, community mental health centers serve St. Louis City and County on the Missouri side, with a separate network in the Metro East. Federally qualified health centers offer primary care with sliding fees across the region.

Step three: understand the local options you may hear about

A doctor or psychiatrist may raise several possibilities. In the St. Louis area, you are likely to find:

  • Psychiatric care through hospital systems and private practices, for medication changes and combinations.
  • TMS, offered by some psychiatric practices, which uses magnetic pulses instead of medication. Drug-free mattered to 64 percent of our respondents.
  • Certified esketamine sites for the FDA-approved Spravato nasal spray, given under observation. A guide to what a Spravato visit involves may help you prepare. The manufacturer's website lists certified treatment centers, which you can cross-check with your insurance.
  • IV ketamine clinics, which use ketamine off-label for depression. Legal, but not the approved product, and insurance often handles it differently.
  • At-home ketamine services advertised online. These operate without a clinician present during use, a very different level of supervision.

Our respondents leaned toward care with a clinic in the picture. Forty-four percent preferred in-person care and 23 percent a clinic-then-home approach, together 67 percent.

Step four: sort out coverage for your side of the river

Coverage topped every provider factor in our survey, chosen as a top-two need by 85 percent of respondents. In St. Louis, the state line adds a wrinkle.

  • MO HealthNet. Call the managed care plan on the card. Ask about in-network psychiatry, TMS, and certified esketamine sites, and whether prior authorization is required.
  • Illinois Medicaid. If your loved one lives in the Metro East, their plan's network may not include Missouri clinics, and vice versa. Confirm before booking.
  • Commercial plans. Ask whether esketamine falls under the medical or pharmacy benefit.
  • Medicare. Ask how sessions are billed and what the share of cost would be.
  • TRICARE. Military families near Scott Air Force Base, and retirees across the region, may carry TRICARE. Ask which certified clinics are authorized and whether a referral is required before the first session.

Just over half of our respondents said they would rather go through extra insurance steps than pay out of pocket for a simpler route. If that is your family, expect paperwork and plan for it.

Step five: plan the logistics

Location mattered to 43 percent of respondents, second only to coverage. The metro is wide, and a clinic in west county can mean a long haul from south city or Belleville. For esketamine in particular, early treatment often means frequent visits, an observation period each time, and no driving until the next day.

Work out who can drive and when. If your loved one is on MO HealthNet, ask the plan whether non-emergency medical transportation is available for treatment visits and what the clinic's policy is on how patients get home.

Step six: keep yourself going

Caregiving through a long stretch of depression is tiring. If you need support, NAMI St. Louis offers family programs, and your own doctor is a reasonable place to talk about how you are holding up.

If safety is in question

If your loved one talks about suicide or you are frightened for them, do not wait for an appointment. Someone at the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline picks up every hour of every day when you reach out to 988 by call or text; veterans can press 1. In immediate danger, call 911.

A necessary caution

This guide offers survey findings and general navigation information rather than medical advice. The clinician who knows your loved one's history decides whether a treatment is right.

Methodology

These results come from a survey we placed with Pollfish's consumer panel, which closed it June 23, 2026, after reaching 443 people, ages 18 to 64, in Minnesota, Ohio, Kansas, Missouri, Wisconsin, Illinois, Nebraska, Iowa, Indiana, and Oklahoma. The experience question measured personal or close experience, not diagnosis. Figures are ten-state and top-line, and they are final. This site's publisher commissioned the study and funded it from its own budget.