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From our survey

Your St. Louis doctor visit when you want care without medication

The appointment is on the calendar. You will get a short window with your doctor, and you know how it usually goes: you say the medication is not really working, the dose changes or a new drug gets suggested, and you walk out with a fresh prescription and the same heavy feeling.

This time you want to ask about something else, some depression treatment besides one more pill. This article gives you the words.

You are not the only one asking

We paid for a summer poll of 443 adults across Missouri and nine neighboring Midwest states, and 64 percent of respondents told us that avoiding medication in depression care mattered. Only about one in four, 25 percent, said they knew what TMS is. Short for transcranial magnetic stimulation, TMS is a treatment involving no medication, FDA cleared for adult depression that antidepressants have not budged.

The top answer, chosen by about half of respondents, was that TMS was unfamiliar but drug-free care mattered. These results are final. They show what people want, not whether a treatment suits you; only a clinician who knows you can judge that.

Why the doctor conversation matters so much

Respondents were clear about whose opinion counts. Seventy-four percent of them said their personal physician's say-so would be the thing to get them trying a new depression treatment, and for 56 percent a primary care doctor would be the first place to turn.

That loads a lot onto a short visit. Walk in without a plan and the talk drifts to what is familiar; walk in with a clear request and your doctor has something specific to answer.

Before the appointment

Spend a few minutes writing down:

  • Every antidepressant you have been on, the rough length of each trial, and your reason for quitting.
  • How you are doing now, in plain words: sleep, energy, appetite, work, relationships.
  • What you want from the visit, such as "options that do not add a new medication."
  • Your insurance, whether MO HealthNet, Illinois Medicaid, Medicare, or a commercial plan.

The medication history matters more than you might expect, because plans often want proof of past antidepressant trials before approving TMS.

The script

Use these lines as written or adapt them, and say them early, not with your hand on the door.

"I want to be honest about how I'm doing. The medications I've tried haven't helped enough, and I'm not sure another one is the answer. Can we talk about treatments that don't add a new drug?"

Then name what you want to hear about:

"I've read about TMS. Could it make sense for someone like me? And what about therapy, alone or alongside what I'm doing now?"

If your doctor seems open, turn practical:

"If TMS might fit, could you refer me to someone who offers it? And can my chart show what I've already tried, since insurance may ask?"

Questions to ask during the visit

  • "Is there anything in my history that rules TMS out?"
  • "Should I stay on my current medication while I look into this?"
  • "Is there a psychiatrist you work with who could evaluate me?"
  • "Can you suggest a therapist who takes my insurance?"
  • "How will we know if something is working?"

Please do not quit an antidepressant on your own to make room for something drug-free. Stopping suddenly can bring withdrawal symptoms and a worse slump, so plan any change with the prescriber.

If your doctor is unfamiliar with TMS

That happens and is not a dead end. Primary care covers a huge range of conditions, and not every office has a TMS contact. You can ask:

"Would you be comfortable referring me to a psychiatrist who could tell me whether TMS or something else fits?"

A psychiatrist can do a fuller evaluation. Among our respondents, 23 percent said a psychiatrist or other mental health provider would be their first stop, so that path is common.

If the conversation turns to ketamine

Your doctor may bring up esketamine, sold as Spravato, whose FDA approval covers treatment-resistant depression and which must be taken under supervision at a certified site. It is a medication, not a drug-free choice, but worth hearing about, since 73 percent of respondents in our survey had never heard of it. If you want background before the visit, Brain Recovery Centers offers an introduction to Spravato. You can listen and still say your first preference is a non-medication approach; a good clinician will respect that.

St. Louis specifics to bring up

TMS usually means a session most weekdays for several weeks, so location counts. When respondents chose the two things that mattered most in a provider, nearness to home ranked second at 43 percent, behind coverage at 85.

So ask: "Do you know a TMS provider near where I live or work?" Mention it if home is St. Charles County or the Metro East, because a clinic across the river may sit in another network or simply be too far for daily trips.

After the appointment

Write down what you heard while it is fresh, and if you got a referral, call within a few days. If not, phone the member services line on your card with three questions: is TMS for depression a covered benefit, what does the plan need, and who is in network?

Think about bringing someone next time. Among respondents, the second most trusted voice after their own doctor was a close friend or family member, chosen by 18 percent.

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Methodology

Pollfish gathered the responses on its consumer panel for this publisher, who commissioned and paid for the work, and the survey closed June 23, 2026. It counts 443 completes from consenting adults 18 to 64 who live in a ten-state Midwest region, Missouri and Kansas included. Results come from validated data. Take this as general information rather than medical advice.